Wow, it has been 10 days since I last wrote in my “daily” blog.  I have been slacking hardcore, but not because of laziness.  A couple factors have come into play.  First, the weather has been pretty great and the winter fever pushed me outside. So after a day of doing my work, I managed to get outside.  What did I accomplish…. tomato plant planted (re-planted from Jessica), weeded the garden and mulched, cleaned the gutters, tree and brush removal, created some firewood, and the typical lawn maintenance of mowing and such.  Of course, the last time I mowed, the tractor ran over a rock and bent the blade. No one sells the blades in store so they had to be ordered.  When the order came in they only sent 1 blade so I am still waiting for the second to put it all back together and mow this week.

While the mower was apart, the garage door opener decided to stop working.  Thank god for YouTube.  A $20 part and an hour or so of pain-in-the-ass work and the garage door was fixed.

The second factor that has occupied a lot of my brain power is the kitchen remodel.  The cabinet are at the logistic company awaiting a scheduled ship date.  So I have been progressing, somewhat slowly, on moving forward on the kitchen prepping for the delivery.  I finished adding support to the beam, removed some more sheetrock getting ready for electrical and squared up the wood floors in the dining room to transition to the kitchen floors.

Not much new in the baby front.  Jessica got a wicked cold so she has been kind of down for the count.  Not as nauseous as before, but the cold didn’t help anything.  On May 17th we hit the official mark of the second trimester, so 1/3 of the way there.  We started planning the gender reveal party on June 3rd and have our gender ultrasound scheduled for May 20th.  We have to wait 4 days to find out the gender, hopefully we can do it without peeking.  I honestly have no idea what gender to guess.  I’m rational and not a gambling man so I follow the odds 50/50 and sit this decision out.  I think I secretly hope for boy, but honestly would be happy with a healthy child of any gender.

With all that I have going on I haven’t had time for some deep thought stuff.  I did watch/listen to the a Joe Rogan podcast with Neil de-Grasse Tyson about astrophysicist stuff and it was so hard to wrap my mind around the topics.  It puts into perspective how small and insignificant we are in the scope of the universe.  It also reminds me there are people a lot smarter than myself out there in the world.

I think a that about catches everything up.  I will try my best to be as diligent in writing daily.  I feel like first thing in the morning is the best time to schedule things like this, but that is gym time and if I push off gym time I will be fat with heart disease.   Therefore, skipping blogging is a healthier option for me. 🙂


A door

I don’t recall if I ever discussed about the one-piece metal door frames that builders put in thought our house in the 50’s when it was built, but they are a pain in the ass.  They are solid, one piece door frames and casing with welded hinges.  The frames get nailed to the structure via a total of 12 tabs (3 on each side of the adjacent studs) under the sheetrock.  There are also two tabs on the bottom underneath the floor. So to remove one of these frames, you need to tear apart sheetrock and the floor.  Typing about it just makes me angry!  They would be alright to keep, even as ugly as they are, if they held paint well, but they chip so easily.  So I already removed two frames (no doors) in the two walls we are removing in the kitchen.  Still a pain, but not awful as all the sheetrock had to come down anyways.  The door the basement was left. It was on a wall all by itself it sheetrock in good condition.  I debated leaving it as is to avoid the hassle.  But the more I thought about it, it was now or never.  Due to the labor and mess required to remove, it had to be done as part of the whole remodel.

That was the project for yesterday.  Removed the old and add a brand new prehung door.  Although it took pretty much all day to complete it wasn’t too bad.

I said it before and I will say it again.  There is something about problem solving with your hands.  To evaluate a situation, develop a plan, and execute.  The reward is the sense of accomplishment when you step back at the end see what you were able to complete.  It’s an addiction that drives me on to project after project.  Yes it takes longer, yes I’m not expert, and yes it’s cheaper, but the greatest part of all these home projects is stepping back after it’s over and saying I did that.  Unlucky for Jessica, who likes shit done quickly, I think I will continue taking on more projects, after the kitchen is completed of course.

Lazy Saturday

My cousin and her husband wanted to view an investment property in Torrington so knowing Jessica would sleep late I figured I’d schedule it early in the morning.  So I made sure I had some good podcasts ready for listening and headed up for 8am.  The showing was quick.  Since my parent’s were home for the weekend and I was only 5 minutes away I thought I’d drop in to give my mother her Mother’s Day card and gift.  I hung out there for a couple hours and took the drive back home.

New England is getting hit with a nor’eastern so the weather was crappy.  Still fighting a cold, it was kind of a couch day with the wifey.  There was plenty to be done in the kitchen, but between fighting the cold and having dinner plans I wasn’t too interested in starting a project.

We ended up running out to look for a Mother’s Day gift for Jessica’s mom so we battled the mall on the rainy day.  It was a mistake.  For the news to be reporting about the fall of malls we must have been living in “bizarro”.  I will say shopping with a nauseous, pregnant wife is more fun because she isn’t in the mood to shop so we get in and out on a mission.

Dinner that night was for Jessica’s brother’s birthday.  It was at Salsa’s a definite favorite of mine.  A few enchiladas and a couple margaritas finished out the night.

Moving Forward

My parent’s home finally went under contract on the 11th, but yesterday all the paperwork got put together.  Inspections in a week.  Fingers crossed all goes well.  The first set of inspections went excellent so I do not foresee any issues.  If all goes well, by the end of June they can consider themselves official full time residents of Massachusetts.  Hopefully they get a house that has ample room for me, Jessica, the baby, and all my puppies (not sure they are thinking about that, but I am. Haha)

On a second note, had a long-ish conversation with my manager regarding the future of the company and our region.  The company is in a transition period with changes coming rapidly.  There is a lot that is unknown at this point, but it allows for some opportunity to think about the business a little differently and come up with some new approaches.  Luckily, my head is clearer today as I feel better, so I was able to expand my thinking.  Gives me something to mull over during the weekend.

The Why

We had a lunch meeting at Foxwoods Resort and Casino yesterday so I hit up some schools on my way down so I was traveling short distances, stopping, and getting in/out the cars.  I typically just listen to the radio for these types of trips as it hard to focus on a longer podcast or such when you constantly have to stop and start it.

But on the way home, I drove straight, about an hour and half.  Earlier yesterday I had download the most recent podcast from Kevin Rose called The Journal during which he interview Treehouse founder and CEO Ryan Carson.  This was my first time every learning of Ryan.

During the interview I heard one of the most humble guys I’d ever experienced talking about their experience as an entrepreneur.  He was completely candid about the mistakes he had made, how he constantly thought about quitting but persevered, and how he basically wandered aimlessly until he reach the age of 32 where he found his purpose/his why (he is now 40).  His why is making higher education available to more people through Treehouse, his online computer coding courses.  He teaches coding as a trade, which he believes it truly is, rather than as a four year degree.

Being 32 currently i was able to reflect on what he was saying.  I for so long have felt like I have been behind the ball trying to figure out my purpose, my passion, my why.  Here was a guy who had owned a few companies, some which failed and some which succeeded, all before the age of 32 and he admits he didn’t know shit about a why prior to that age.  He found his purpose and that drives him day after day.  It pushes him to do the daily mundane tasks that slowly build on success, to take the good with the bad.  It was quite inspiring to me.  Immediately after the podcast was over, I followed Ryan on Instagram just to keep up with what he was doing.

For the first time ever, I actually direct messaged Ryan to give him my feedback on the interview and how great I thought it was.  I just wanted to let him know his words made a difference to me and to keep up the good work.  I wasn’t looking for anything in return.  I figured he got hit up on Instagram all the time for people looking for jobs or investment money, or contacts, so I was half expecting him to even read it and definitely was not expecting a reply.  Within an hour or so Ryan had sent a message back saying Thanks for sharing, or something like that.

I took a second to think about how amazing the world we live in is with the internet.  Here is a guy who lives in Portland, Oregon who was featured in a podcast by a silicon valley superstar that I downloaded and listened to in my car.  I instantaneously was able to find in on Instagram to see what he is up to.  I then can immediately get in contact with him and he can reply within hours – technically within seconds if he chose. It’s fascinating.  There is no excuse to not know something you want to know.  Of course I grew up with the internet and knew for many years all of this was possible, but to step back and appreciate what a game changer it is was something I don’t think I had ever done.

So for now I will continue to search for my why, but I have a feeling come November I may suddenly discover a new purpose.

Another appointment

So I am beginning to think it is a cold.  I went to the gym but just walked for 30 minutes on the treadmill preventing annoying everyone coughing up my chest congestion.

Again my morning was flooded with emails for last minute questions/orders.  It’s just that time of year where I need to almost be attached to my computer to solve issues as they come in.

We had a follow up doctor’s appointment to go over the results of the 1st trimester screening, but because our screening was rescheduled later the results were not available for our appointment.  The appointment was pretty low key.  The doctor did a quick ultrasound to check the heart beat, asked how Jessica was doing and sent us on our way.

On the way to and from the appointment I listened to a new Tim Ferriss podcast where he interviewed athletic trainer Ryan Flaherty.  What a sharp guy.  Only 34 years old and made me feel like I was a slug.  He was a top trainer in getting athletes to get faster.  He was totally deep into the science of exercise science which made him a top trainer.  But listening to him, I kind of wished I had explored more career options in high school because I thought I’d enjoy beings a physical therapist.   I know it’s never too late to do something, but I just think if back then I had explored it, I probably would have proceed down that path.  Oh well, one missed opportunity for now to open another one down the road.